Jessica is probably one of the sweetest girls I've ever met. A true understanding person, filled with love and patience. We met via mutual friends and hit it off instantly as friends. We have had many a talk about business, faith, and life in general. She has helped me through times when I doubted myself and my abilities. It was only fitting that she be featured on Arrow Following because she will be an inspiration to everyone who reads this blog post. Not only is she a fantastic lady, but she living her life on her terms and doing what she wants with her time spent here on the earth.
We had so much fun getting her all dolled up at Raw Mane Lounge, and when the photo shoot started, we couldn't stop talking. We had a talk about self-image, self-love and about forgetting the past mistakes. I couldn't be more proud to photograph such a beautiful woman. Also her answers to the interview questions are divine, you don't want to skip this! Read on...
1. To women and young girls out there, what would you like to say about pursuing goals and dreams?
Get a vision and get excited to accomplish it! Start with something you would like to do this year and then work on it daily or weekly. You will see how quickly your life can change!
2. What would you say was the hardest part about achieving your goals?
The hardest part to achieve my goals is doing the little things consistently. We all want big changes (and fast), but it is the small changes done consistently that bring the long-lasting, big results. I’ve never been able to put $1,000 into my savings account at one time (I don’t have that kind of discipline), but I can set aside 10% of everything I make into a savings account.
3. Growing up, what type of self-image did you have?
Probably like most people, I had a very poor self-image. I wish I could have had a talk with my younger self to say, “Hey Jessica, don’t worry that you have freckles, your ears stick out, and you are super skinny…you’ll grow into your body! Oh, and by the way, don’t worry about trying to please everyone…it won’t work, so just have fun being you!”
4. If you could go back, what's the one thing you would change?
I would have stopped allowing the fear of failure to rule my decisions.
5. Have you always known you were going to be __________ or did evolve as you went along?
A business woman…absolutely! I’ve always been a little entrepreneur. However, what I’ve done in business has definitely evolved. All of my current and future success is because of God. He is willing to lead us into amazing experiences, and I just keep following step by step. It’s definitely been an adventure.
6. For the women out there dealing with fear and self-doubt, what do you want to say about that?
All of us feel fear and self-doubt, and as long as we allow those thoughts and feelings to roll around in our minds, we will never accomplish our dreams. I’ve learned that I fight fear and self-doubt with a plan and the words that come out of my mouth. After all, I will believe what I say about my future, more than what anyone else could say. For example, I decided to take a Pointe dance class this year where I was learning to perform ballet on my tip-toes in Pointe shoes. I had so many reasons why I could not do this…I’m 34 years old and I only took one Pointe class when I was 11 years old, I don’t have time to practice, I’m going to fall on my face, etc. I moved past the fear by enrolling in the class and I fight the self-doubt by saying each morning: “I will perform on Pointe at the Spring Show” and I quote a favorite scripture of mine from Psalm 30:11-12 MSG, “You did it; you changed my wild lament into whirling dance…God, my God, I can’t thank you enough!” I am so thankful that I felt the fear and did it anyway because this dance class has been so much fun…and I WILL perform on Pointe at the Spring Show on May 17th!
7. What's next for you?
I’m still working on this year’s goals/dreams. You’ll have to check back with me in December!
8. What are the 5 things people probably don't know about you?
1) I received Jesus as my Lord and Savior while on a cruise to Cozumel in 2004.
2) I’ve got a drum set, an electric guitar, and a bass guitar (I could start a band!)
3) I talk to myself…a lot.
4) I like to watch animated children’s movies. “Meet the Robinsons” is my favorite.
5) I’m a minimalist. If I haven’t used it, I give it away.
9. The glamour experience with Megan Smart, how did that make you feel?
Words cannot express how thankful I am to have had this experience. Megan was funny and made me feel so comfortable during the shoot. Also, having my hair and make-up done was so much fun!
In business, it is good to do a financial snap-shot to see how well you are doing and where you can improve. I felt like this glamour experience was a “life snap-shot” where I could celebrate what I’ve done…on the way to where I’m going. I highly suggest anyone 30 years old or older to take the time to do this. We have a tendency to live life full-throttle, and never pause to document our life’s journey.
10. Self- Confidence, how do you keep it up and keep working at your goals every day?
The beginning of self-confidence for me was getting God-confidence. Otherwise, every time I fail or I don’t live up to my expectations, I no longer have confidence. It’s much better to wake up every morning knowing that God’s grace and mercy are waiting for you!